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Friday, May 11, 2012
Pitied or admired?
Would you rather be pitied or admired? (Think about it) Describe a situation that would best illustrate your answer.
I would rather be admired for something then pitied on for the rest of my life. If you do something like save someone's life you would be admired for doing that. I would rather be remembered for doing that then being pitied on for not saving someone's life.
Would I rather be pitied or admired I rather be admired than pitied. If you are being pitied it means people feel sorry for you. If people admire me it means they are proud of me for something i have done such as getting a good grade, helping some one, and being recognized.
Very true. Being pitied makes someone fell like they have nothing to live for. Furthermore, if your admired you want to keep going in life to keep up that standard.
Exactly, when your admired it makes you keep going in life, gives you more reason to live. When people pity you it gives you a reason to stop doing things, or evaluate you life you make it better.
I would rather be admired than being pitied. In my opinion, being admired is a greater reward than being pitied. Being admired allows one to feel accomplished, achieved and motivated. Being pitied just makes it harder and longer for one to get over the specific situation instead of being strong and making their way through it. Pity just allows the continuation of stress and I believe that it only makes matters worse. For instance, death is extremely hard to get over. My father lost his brother whom he was very close to a few years back. It was very hard for him and the rest of my family to get over. He overcame it and so did everyone else but if he were to be pitied, he would still be a wreck because of the incident. I admire him for staying strong and getting through it in the way that he did. Therefore, I would rather be admired than pitied.
My close friend's father had his brother pass away right in his own arms because of drug use. Of course it affected the family, but it mainly affected him. He will never get that picture out of his mind. Till this day he speaks about him as if he were still alive. I mean, he's passed it. hes moved on, but there are still days when it gets to him. I do feel bad, but he always tells me not to. I admire him because of it. loosing a brother or family member is very hard to get over.
From what I have seen and experienced throughout my years so far, I would honestly rather be admired. Some people intentionally look for pity and complain about anything they can. Others, who have more of a reason to complain, just don't. In addition, I admire those who have not too good of a home life, but still have enough dignity to enjoy their time when they can. If I were to be pitied, I think I would end up pitying myself, and I wouldn't like that at all. Truly, when people go through tough situations and still walk around with a smile, trying to move past it, I admire them because they have strength. I understand it is difficult sometimes to just move on from something, but one shouldn't waste their whole lives being upset. Although too much admiration can be bad, I would rather be admired than pitied.
thats so true some people look for others to pity them. which doesn't show independence. it just shows dependance which wont help you get anywhere successful in life.
I would not want to be pitied. I wouldn’t mind being admired in a non-materialistic world, but I would not want to be overly admired like the Celebrities out there. I would not want anyone to feel bad for me. If something bad happens to me, I will get over it since I would not want anyone to feel any sorrow for me because I really do not care what other people think of me. On the other hand, I wouldn’t mind being admired for something good I did for the community or doing something good in school, but I would not want to be “admired” like the Celebrities out there. Celebrities are not really happy with their lives. Everyone sees Celebrities on television. They are all hopped up on drugs and they are depressed in life. It is mainly because of all of the people who “admire” them.
agree with this one. I wouldn't want to be admired like celebrities cause you always see their lives on tv & they're always getting into trouble or doing drugs.
I agree with this. Just because living the celebrity life seems glamorous, it doesn't mean that they are happy. That is the most important thing to me.
I agree. Celebrities gain so much admiration from people around the world who they don't even know exist. They gain to much admiration and also, they gain a lot of pity when something goes wrong in their life as well.
Personally, I’d rather be admired than pitied. Everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something in life that they still can’t get passed. Throughout my life, the people I love the most had slowly left me. For example, my father left us when I was 4 years of age. It didn’t really affect me at the time because I was still getting to see him, but once I moved over here I lost connection. I haven’t seen him in 10 years. I guess it really got to my brother. We never saw our mother. She was struggling, working 3 jobs just to support us. My brother started hanging with the wrong crowd and eventually gotten arrested. He left us for 3 years. I was by myself, a 10 year old little girl. My mother couldn’t take it any more, we kept moving from place to place because of my brother’s situations. She kicked my brother out the house. Haven’t seen him since I was 13. I’m 17 now. My mom decided to buy me my first dog because she knew I was lonely, but apparently I had to give him away because of where we live. My mother has cancer and it’s only her and I. Each day I go by with fear of her lose. She’s all I have right now, but I’m older now and I’ve realized I have to be a stronger person. Now it’s my turn to support us. I’m going through so much right now, but I rather people admire me and support what I’m doing rather than feel sorry for me because I don’t feel sorry for my own self. It’s life.
It's good that although all of that happened to you, you're still strong and motivated to do the right things. Most people give up and throw their lives away because of things similar to your situation.
Thank you. That's exactly what I am trying to show people. A lot of people go through things in their life. I'm trying to be a stronger person for my mother. Hopefully if people see what I am going through at such a young age, they would probably change their minds in life and realize that things are possible. I have people and family members that admire me and it's just a great feeling.
Just be sure not to push off hat may seem like "pity" but is support from others. We know your strength and your modesty, but you also have way too much to be dealing with.. even more than what you posted, too. I wish I could buy that dog back for you.. and so much more for you and your mom.
I would rather be admired than be pitied. When I try out a new activity I like people letting me do it my self than telling me “you can do it.” I want mostly my family to know I will succeed than be pitting me for not being able to complete something like school. I know I am admired a lot because even though I am not the best student I am still in school and didn’t ruin my life yet, I will succeed I will not be a drop out and end up being a single mom, this way I wont be pitied the rest of my live.
i rather be admired then pitied. But if i would be pitied i wouldn't care, because i don't care what people think about me. however i rather be admired if i do something good i would like to admired for my good deed.
I am on the fence. When people admire you, it means that you have made something great out of yourself, or that you have accomplished something special or great. In this case, it would feel really good to have people admire you. To be pitied its generally to be considered needy or inferior to your benefactor, but a person who is pitied be a more humble person. Because I try to be as humble as possible, in this case, I would rather be pitied than admired.
I think being admired would be better than being pitied. Being admired means as you said "you have made something great out of yourself, or that you have accomplished something special or great," but it also means people look up to you.
In relevance to the ORIGINAL post, what he had is understandable however my reasoning is slightly different, in the case of siding with rathering to be pitied. I would also add that it is usually easier to be pitied. For example, if something bad happens like your wife dies, people would pity your loss and feel sorry for you without having done anything to achieve this stature (at least I would hope not).
But there are those who make a living out of others feeling bad for them, making excuses for everything, expecting "a second chances" or always expecting special treatment.
I would rather be admired rather than pitied because if you are admired you can make a difference in somebody's life through example. In the case of being pitied perhaps you will have attention drawn to like you would through admiration but you would be lacking the influence on others.
In my opinion, I would rather be admired than pitied. Being admired means that people like you and look up to you. Being pitied means that people feel sorry for you, and people only feel sorry for you when you’re going through a crappy situation. If you’re admired, you’re remembered for a long amount of time. Where as, the pity eventually goes away. That’s why I would rather be admired than pitied.
If you are admired doesn't mean people are going to remember you forever. The only way people will remember you for a long time is if you do something HUGE. As in create something new, or be very good in sports. There are more ways but it's not like everyone will be remembered forever. I mean of course everyone wants to be remembered forever but be serious not everyone is going to be remembered. Only the top of the top will be remembered by people that are not their family.
I would rather be admired rather than pitied. With admiration comes the feeling of wonder and esteem while pity comes the feeling of sorrow. I try to be a positive figure to others, so I would do acts that would help people want to admire me rather than pity me for unethical acts. For example, I want to go to college on a field hockey scholarship. I would rather be admired for working really hard to reach my goal than be pitied that I live at home instead of going to college or be pitied because I am always so tired because I work so hard.
I'd rather be admired than be pitied for and have people feel bad for me. For instance when I was in 6th grade I was diagnosed with epilepsy seizures it was hard for me to accept it and I went through a lot at first, but one thing that made things worse and didn't help me overcome for a while was having my friends and teachers pity me, having them pity me and feel sorry for me just made me even more depressed. Some of the friends that I had in middle school were just my friend because they pitied me not because they actually wanted to be my friend, and at that time I needed a real friend to be there for me not to just pity me. With my teachers they asked me all the time if I was feeling okay, I understand that they were just checking on me but constantly asking me if I was okay just annoyed me. Eventually I overcame the fear of having this health problem and many of my middle school teachers were very proud of me because I did, and that is why I rather be admired than to be pitied on.
I am kind of in the middle. While admiration makes people feel good and inspire others, it also induces hate and people looking to harm the one in admiration. While being pitied is felling sorrow for them and it infers that one feels bad, there is no need to worry about someone trying to kill me in my sleep. Admiration is good, but it has a negative side too, just as pity has its positives. Personally I prefer pity.
Why do you prefer pity over people admiring you? I see what you are saying but I think that it gives you more self esteem when someone admires you. Someone admiring you isn't a negative affect against you unless you make a dumb decision in life and you bring that on yourself. Which to me that's pity and I wouldn't want anyone to look down on me like I was dirt.
Well, think about it. When you do something admirable there is always some one, in which, this will spurn envy, which will eventually turn into hatred. This is one the sad facts of life. No matter how important or heroic the act, there will ALWAYS be at least one person who takes it negatively and use it as a reason for evil. However, when one is pitied, people often look at your situation and think "Wow! I really don't want to end up like that!" While this doesn't make one feel good about themselves, if someone does a deed to elevate themselves, and you know you are the reason, I find that that too makes someone feel good about themselves. When one is pitied they tend to find the simpler pleasures in life.
Wouldn't you rather know you had a positive influence on someone and have people admire you regardless if some people hate you because you truly know that there is no reason for anyone to hate you?
I agree with A.W because if you are being admired there is no need for you to be ashamed of it. Instead you should embrace the fact that there are people who look up to you. You shouldn’t be scared of what others may think because you are being a good influence to someone and I feel that you shouldn’t let them down.
admiration is good, yes, and yes I would like to leave a good influence. However using Newtons laws, which I find apply to more than physics, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. For all the admiration you get, there is an equal amount of negative emotion. I am trying to say that neither is truly better. They are both actually part of a cycle. One starts at either of the aforementioned (admiration/pity). Then there is a major event that delivers you unto the one inverse of the one you were at. Neither is better, but rather they are both parts of one of the many cycles of life.
Id rather be admired the pitied. when admired people will look to and not think of you like ohh that kid and don't even look or pay attention too.Now why would anyone want to be pitied I bet everyone that chose to answer this question would choose to be admired if not then you must be a loner.
I would rather be admired than pitied. When you are admired people look up to you and respect you. If you are pitied its almost like people feel bad for you. I would not want people feeling bad for me and treating me differently. An example of this is when you work really hard to achieve something, and in the end you don't achieve your goal. People may pity you and feel bad for you. However, when this happens I do not want people treating my differently. I would rather people look at me with respect and admiration, for doing something commendable like always doing my best.
I completely agree with you in the sense of, "you having to earn that attention instead of it being forced on you for trying at something and still failing". Not to say that people shouldn't feel bad for you because of your failure, but in terms of respect and admiration vs pity, respect wins any day in my opinion.
Admiration can be a good thing, but it can be bad too. Some times people get admired for hings they shouldn't, and sometimes people get nothing for things that are worthy of admiration. Pity while known to depress people and make them feel bad about themselves, it is not all bad. There are many who use it as a reason to raise themselves to new levels in order to release themselves from the cold, deathly grips of Pity. Why does you look at Pity as strictly negative and admiration as a purely positive thing?
I look at pity as a negative thing because I don't like people feeling bad for me. When people raise themselves to new levels because of pity its usually because they do not want to be pitied. They take a negative thing and turn it into a positive. Granted some people do thrive off of being pitied. As for admiration, I feel that there is nothing bad about it. Yes some people are admired for things that they shouldn't but it doesn't necessarily mean it is a negative thing.
I would rather be admired, than be pitied by other people. I want to set an example for myself so people look up to me. It is a goal of mine that people look up to me in some way, so it shows that I did something with my life. I don’t want to be pitied since I see it as people forgetting about my name and who I was as a person. So that’s the main reason why I would rather be admired than be pitied.
I agree with this I rather be remembered by someone who admired me for something good I did or for how I reacted towards something then to be remembered by someone who pitied me because of something bad that happened to me.
I would preferably be admired any day over being pitied. If you figure, being pitied is really kind of sad in itself especially if you're craving the attention you get from it; since you really didn't do anything worthwhile in order to gain all that unnecessary attention from people who wouldn't otherwise even know you personally for doing anything. If you're being admired at least you have a bigger chance of being remembered after you're "gone". In my opinion, being pitied is the lowest form of attention gain one can possibly have. At least when you're being admired, you've usually done something worth gaining all that attention. But if I had to choose an honest answer, i would probably have to think about it a lot more since i'm not big on having everyone's attention on me.
Personally, I’d day that being admired is far better than being pitied. If a person is admired it shows that they’ve done something that’s worth admiring, however if a person is being pitied, it shows that they are inferior or less in value than another person.
An example of this would be when a person attempts to do something very difficult and doesn’t achieve their goal. In this situation, I’d rather be admired because I attempted to do something, than pitied because I failed.
I'd rather be admired than pitied. I would rather be admired because people would look up to me and I want to set a good example in some way. I wouldn't want to be pitied because I don't want people to feel sorrow for me in any way. So I would rather be admired than pitied.
It seems like the majority of people say that they would rather be admired than pitied, but is there a situation that you would rather be pitied than admired?
I don't like the thought of being pitted at all, its bad enough having something terrible happen to you so that you have to be pitted. I'd rather be admired for something I did, and have a positive outlook towards things. Even if something bad does happen, I'd rather people come at me with a positive attitude so that it doesn't make things worse. I can understand feeling sorry for someone but pitying them won't help.
In your comment, the way you talk about pitying is as if it's horrible; according to Abba Eban, an Israeli Diplomat, "its better to be disliked than pitied", would you agree with this? Or say that its an extreme?
I would have to say it's an extreme, I understand the concept of pitying someone. I just think it sends a negative message, it gives the person a reason to give up, or feel sorry for them self. To rather be disliked over being pitied just shows you have to much pride. Its not a bad thing to have someone feel bad for you, i just personally rather have someone help me then pity me.
I understand what you mean with you'd rather have someone help you than pity you, however I believe that although it seems like being pitied is negative, it's a function that humans will always have and although some people would say that they would rathe be admired than pitied, inside they truly don't mind being pitied and enjoy it at times. Would you agree with that?
I agree with this and understand where this person is coming from like if someone just had something bad happened to them this person doesn't need someone to pity them, they more like need someone that is there for them and make them think positive about things. In my opinion its better to have someone look up to you then to have have someone look down to you and feel bad.
I agree because its a different story if someone feels bad for you, but pitying somebody is just pathetic. and it feels good to a person when they are admired by somebody else. it builds self confidence .
I also agree with both of you, as me being the person I am I hate being pitied because most people only come around when pitying people I find it pathetic but I love being admired because people look up to you, it gives you a great feeling.
The Greek Historian, Herodutus, asks "How much better a thing it is to be envied than to be pitied?" Would anyone say that they'd rather be envied than pitied?
Being envied by others doesn't seem like something that would be any better than being pitied. Envy causes anger. I wouldn't want others to be jealous of me and not like me because of that.
I would rather be pitied than envied. When people envy you, it means that they might want what you have. Since we live in a world filthy with larceny and murder, I would not really want to be such a "hot" object. I would rather be pitied, because that generally means that a person has nothing a materialistic society would see as valuable. Therefore, I do not agree with you Herodutus. It is better to be pitied than envied.
Being envied means that people want what you have or like something about you a lot. Which is why I would rather be envied. I don't want people feeling bad and sorry for me and pitying me.
In my opinion, being pitied is when people feel sorry and look down at me. I'd rather be envied where people look at me and see something they want or want to be, than be pitied where people will view me as an inferior. Also T.Berger, what if the thing that you were being envied for was not an object of value, but rather a trait that you have obtained and others have not?
@falvarado - why do think being pitied is people seeing you as an inferior? Pity is also people being sympathetic and instead of seeing you as inferior, see you as less well off. Sure these are closely related, but hey are different. inferiority suggests that they think they are better, this may not be so. What if it is more a feeling of dissatisfaction with your position and what you're doing with it?
i would deffinatly rather have people admire me than pity me. i dont really need people to feel sorry for me. im a very strong and independent person and i have a lot of confidence.
Having confidence and being independent is to very strong qualities but there are going to need someone to pity you. That person that might pity you every now and then could be the one to help you back onto your feet when your down and just help you when you need the help.
I would rather have people admire me then pity me. When people admire you it means that you have earned it. People look up to you as someone they respect in their life, and I see nothing wrong with that. If you have people pity you that means that something bad has happened to you unintentionally. This could be something tragic in your life that you did not want to happen in the first place.
I would rather be admired. If someone were feeling sorry for me it would get annoying. Yes it also gets annoying when my younger friends see something I do and then copy exactly what I wear or do but I wouldn’t be able to handle it if someone was feeling sorry for me all the time. If someone in my family died and I was upset and not my self then it would be different if someone had sympathy for me. But if everyday someone pitied me I’d go crazy. If someone was admiring me I’d feel better about my self and be happy someone was looking at me and liking what I was doing with my life, or the type of clothing I wear, and the kind of person I am. I think about my next-door neighbor Brittney that was my rolemodel and who I admired when I was growing up and how now I’m the way I am because of her. I’d love to be that for someone and have that impact on someone’s life. I’d love for someone to look up at me and admire me.
I believe I fall right in the middle of this question. I would rather be pitied when I'm kicked down to the dirt, but I would like, just as much, to be admired for the accomplishes I made. But if I had to choose one, it would be I would rather be admired. I would rather be admired because when you are admired that means to me, that you did something to earn the respect of the admirer.
An example of when i would rather be admired than pitied is when i play fotball. When i play football naturally i get hit really hard.In relation, when i get back up after those hits people admire me bacause of my heart rather than pity me for weakness
If I had to pick between being pitied or admired I would have to choose admired. I would go with admired not because I want to be, but because I really would not want to be pitied. Why fail at something and be looked at as lesser by someone else, at least that’s how I see pity? Especially if the other option is to just do something right by work a little harder. If I get admired for it, that would be nice, but more importantly I would have success and be able to admire myself.
I rather be admired than pitied any day. Being the type of person I am I like to accomplish thing, and to know that I would be admired for the things I accomplished would make me feel so much better knowing people look up at me. To be pitied to me would make me feel ashamed. I wouldn't want to be looked down upon. That's why I would want to be admired over pitied.
Prompt: Would you rather be pitied or admired? (Think about it) Describe a situation that would best illustrate your answer.
Response: I would rather be admired than pitied. I think that, for example, I would rather be admired for noticing and halting a problem, than pitied for being destroyed because I didn’t. Admiration is something earned for unusually good work, while pity is something received for unusually bad fortune. Admiration is something that people would be happy receiving, for they earned it by skill, while pity is a small compensation for a large loss. As a example in my life, I once had a very painful headache which kept me out of school, and many pitied me for it. I was not improved by the presence of the pity, however there was something that improved me, and that was the admiration that I earned by my resilience to the pain. In my own opinion, an ounce of admiration is worth a ton of pity.
I believe pit is the first sign of a need for someone to be strong, begin to rehabilitate. Otherwise, it can be addictive. I admire so much about you, Paul.
Being pitied or admired is like being in the same situation. I rather not be pitied and i rather not be admired, but if I had to pick I would have to pick admired. If you are admired you get good attention but if you are pitied people feel bad for you. Having people admire you is so much better then feeling bad for you.
I rather have people admire me for what I do best in life than being pitied for what I've done wrong. People do make mistakes in life and some how we have to manage to just let it go, and keep it pushing. "A mixture of admiration and pity is one of the surest recipes for affection." (Helps). Both of them can come in handy once in a while when someone actually does something for attention. I can honestly say, yes, I've done that maybe several times in my life but not intentionally. I was a child and children need more attention than a lot of other people who do it just to do it. But if I feel like I've done something right, and I'm pitied on it, then there's nothing I can do. I don't have pity on myself or anyone. I have pity on the one's whom have pity for others.
I would rather be admired for something then pitied on for the rest of my life. If you do something like save someone's life you would be admired for doing that. I would rather be remembered for doing that then being pitied on for not saving someone's life.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what you are saying. I would also rather be remembered for something good rather than being pitied for something I did not do.
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ReplyDeleteI rather be admired than pitied. If you are being pitied it means people feel sorry for you. If people admire me it means they are proud of me for something i have done such as getting a good grade, helping some one, and being recognized.
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DeleteAgreed, but if you were really down in the dirt because of something that happen previously than would being pitied be that bad after all?
DeleteI agree with you because i don't want people to feel bad for me for the rest of my life, I want people to be proud of me for my life and actions.
ReplyDeleteVery true. Being pitied makes someone fell like they have nothing to live for. Furthermore, if your admired you want to keep going in life to keep up that standard.
DeleteExactly, when your admired it makes you keep going in life, gives you more reason to live. When people pity you it gives you a reason to stop doing things, or evaluate you life you make it better.
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DeleteI would rather be admired than being pitied. In my opinion, being admired is a greater reward than being pitied. Being admired allows one to feel accomplished, achieved and motivated. Being pitied just makes it harder and longer for one to get over the specific situation instead of being strong and making their way through it. Pity just allows the continuation of stress and I believe that it only makes matters worse. For instance, death is extremely hard to get over. My father lost his brother whom he was very close to a few years back. It was very hard for him and the rest of my family to get over. He overcame it and so did everyone else but if he were to be pitied, he would still be a wreck because of the incident. I admire him for staying strong and getting through it in the way that he did. Therefore, I would rather be admired than pitied.
ReplyDeleteMy close friend's father had his brother pass away right in his own arms because of drug use. Of course it affected the family, but it mainly affected him. He will never get that picture out of his mind. Till this day he speaks about him as if he were still alive. I mean, he's passed it. hes moved on, but there are still days when it gets to him. I do feel bad, but he always tells me not to. I admire him because of it. loosing a brother or family member is very hard to get over.
DeleteFrom what I have seen and experienced throughout my years so far, I would honestly rather be admired. Some people intentionally look for pity and complain about anything they can. Others, who have more of a reason to complain, just don't. In addition, I admire those who have not too good of a home life, but still have enough dignity to enjoy their time when they can. If I were to be pitied, I think I would end up pitying myself, and I wouldn't like that at all. Truly, when people go through tough situations and still walk around with a smile, trying to move past it, I admire them because they have strength. I understand it is difficult sometimes to just move on from something, but one shouldn't waste their whole lives being upset. Although too much admiration can be bad, I would rather be admired than pitied.
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Deletethats so true some people look for others to pity them. which doesn't show independence. it just shows dependance which wont help you get anywhere successful in life.
DeleteI would not want to be pitied. I wouldn’t mind being admired in a non-materialistic world, but I would not want to be overly admired like the Celebrities out there. I would not want anyone to feel bad for me. If something bad happens to me, I will get over it since I would not want anyone to feel any sorrow for me because I really do not care what other people think of me. On the other hand, I wouldn’t mind being admired for something good I did for the community or doing something good in school, but I would not want to be “admired” like the Celebrities out there. Celebrities are not really happy with their lives. Everyone sees Celebrities on television. They are all hopped up on drugs and they are depressed in life. It is mainly because of all of the people who “admire” them.
ReplyDeleteagree with this one. I wouldn't want to be admired like celebrities cause you always see their lives on tv & they're always getting into trouble or doing drugs.
DeleteI agree with this. Just because living the celebrity life seems glamorous, it doesn't mean that they are happy. That is the most important thing to me.
DeleteI agree. Celebrities gain so much admiration from people around the world who they don't even know exist. They gain to much admiration and also, they gain a lot of pity when something goes wrong in their life as well.
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DeletePersonally, I’d rather be admired than pitied. Everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something in life that they still can’t get passed. Throughout my life, the people I love the most had slowly left me. For example, my father left us when I was 4 years of age. It didn’t really affect me at the time because I was still getting to see him, but once I moved over here I lost connection. I haven’t seen him in 10 years. I guess it really got to my brother. We never saw our mother. She was struggling, working 3 jobs just to support us. My brother started hanging with the wrong crowd and eventually gotten arrested. He left us for 3 years. I was by myself, a 10 year old little girl. My mother couldn’t take it any more, we kept moving from place to place because of my brother’s situations. She kicked my brother out the house. Haven’t seen him since I was 13. I’m 17 now. My mom decided to buy me my first dog because she knew I was lonely, but apparently I had to give him away because of where we live. My mother has cancer and it’s only her and I. Each day I go by with fear of her lose. She’s all I have right now, but I’m older now and I’ve realized I have to be a stronger person. Now it’s my turn to support us. I’m going through so much right now, but I rather people admire me and support what I’m doing rather than feel sorry for me because I don’t feel sorry for my own self. It’s life.
ReplyDeleteIt's good that although all of that happened to you, you're still strong and motivated to do the right things. Most people give up and throw their lives away because of things similar to your situation.
DeleteThank you. That's exactly what I am trying to show people. A lot of people go through things in their life. I'm trying to be a stronger person for my mother. Hopefully if people see what I am going through at such a young age, they would probably change their minds in life and realize that things are possible. I have people and family members that admire me and it's just a great feeling.
DeleteJust be sure not to push off hat may seem like "pity" but is support from others. We know your strength and your modesty, but you also have way too much to be dealing with.. even more than what you posted, too. I wish I could buy that dog back for you.. and so much more for you and your mom.
DeleteI would rather be admired than be pitied. When I try out a new activity I like people letting me do it my self than telling me “you can do it.” I want mostly my family to know I will succeed than be pitting me for not being able to complete something like school. I know I am admired a lot because even though I am not the best student I am still in school and didn’t ruin my life yet, I will succeed I will not be a drop out and end up being a single mom, this way I wont be pitied the rest of my live.
ReplyDeletei rather be admired then pitied. But if i would be pitied i wouldn't care, because i don't care what people think about me. however i rather be admired if i do something good i would like to admired for my good deed.
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DeleteI am on the fence. When people admire you, it means that you have made something great out of yourself, or that you have accomplished something special or great. In this case, it would feel really good to have people admire you. To be pitied its generally to be considered needy or inferior to your benefactor, but a person who is pitied be a more humble person. Because I try to be as humble as possible, in this case, I would rather be pitied than admired.
ReplyDeleteI feel that being pitied isn't a positive feeling on a person. Being admired would pick someone up while being pitied wouldn't help the situation.
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DeleteI think being admired would be better than being pitied. Being admired means as you said "you have made something great out of yourself, or that you have accomplished something special or great," but it also means people look up to you.
Deletebeing admired to much could choke you and not give you enough space.
DeleteIn relevance to the ORIGINAL post, what he had is understandable however my reasoning is slightly different, in the case of siding with rathering to be pitied.
DeleteI would also add that it is usually easier to be pitied. For example, if something bad happens like your wife dies, people would pity your loss and feel sorry for you without having done anything to achieve this stature (at least I would hope not).
But there are those who make a living out of others feeling bad for them, making excuses for everything, expecting "a second chances" or always expecting special treatment.
DeleteI would rather be admired rather than pitied because if you are admired you can make a difference in somebody's life through example. In the case of being pitied perhaps you will have attention drawn to like you would through admiration but you would be lacking the influence on others.
ReplyDeletedo you think that some one who is pitied can have an influence, and positive one at that, over others?
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ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, I would rather be admired than pitied. Being admired means that people like you and look up to you. Being pitied means that people feel sorry for you, and people only feel sorry for you when you’re going through a crappy situation. If you’re admired, you’re remembered for a long amount of time. Where as, the pity eventually goes away. That’s why I would rather be admired than pitied.
ReplyDeleteIf you are admired doesn't mean people are going to remember you forever. The only way people will remember you for a long time is if you do something HUGE. As in create something new, or be very good in sports. There are more ways but it's not like everyone will be remembered forever. I mean of course everyone wants to be remembered forever but be serious not everyone is going to be remembered. Only the top of the top will be remembered by people that are not their family.
DeleteI would rather be admired rather than pitied. With admiration comes the feeling of wonder and esteem while pity comes the feeling of sorrow. I try to be a positive figure to others, so I would do acts that would help people want to admire me rather than pity me for unethical acts. For example, I want to go to college on a field hockey scholarship. I would rather be admired for working really hard to reach my goal than be pitied that I live at home instead of going to college or be pitied because I am always so tired because I work so hard.
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DeleteI'd rather be admired than be pitied for and have people feel bad for me. For instance when I was in 6th grade I was diagnosed with epilepsy seizures it was hard for me to accept it and I went through a lot at first, but one thing that made things worse and didn't help me overcome for a while was having my friends and teachers pity me, having them pity me and feel sorry for me just made me even more depressed. Some of the friends that I had in middle school were just my friend because they pitied me not because they actually wanted to be my friend, and at that time I needed a real friend to be there for me not to just pity me. With my teachers they asked me all the time if I was feeling okay, I understand that they were just checking on me but constantly asking me if I was okay just annoyed me. Eventually I overcame the fear of having this health problem and many of my middle school teachers were very proud of me because I did, and that is why I rather be admired than to be pitied on.
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DeleteI am kind of in the middle. While admiration makes people feel good and inspire others, it also induces hate and people looking to harm the one in admiration. While being pitied is felling sorrow for them and it infers that one feels bad, there is no need to worry about someone trying to kill me in my sleep. Admiration is good, but it has a negative side too, just as pity has its positives. Personally I prefer pity.
ReplyDeleteWhy do you prefer pity over people admiring you? I see what you are saying but I think that it gives you more self esteem when someone admires you. Someone admiring you isn't a negative affect against you unless you make a dumb decision in life and you bring that on yourself. Which to me that's pity and I wouldn't want anyone to look down on me like I was dirt.
DeleteWell, think about it. When you do something admirable there is always some one, in which, this will spurn envy, which will eventually turn into hatred. This is one the sad facts of life. No matter how important or heroic the act, there will ALWAYS be at least one person who takes it negatively and use it as a reason for evil. However, when one is pitied, people often look at your situation and think "Wow! I really don't want to end up like that!" While this doesn't make one feel good about themselves, if someone does a deed to elevate themselves, and you know you are the reason, I find that that too makes someone feel good about themselves. When one is pitied they tend to find the simpler pleasures in life.
DeleteWouldn't you rather know you had a positive influence on someone and have people admire you regardless if some people hate you because you truly know that there is no reason for anyone to hate you?
DeleteI agree with A.W because if you are being admired there is no need for you to be ashamed of it. Instead you should embrace the fact that there are people who look up to you. You shouldn’t be scared of what others may think because you are being a good influence to someone and I feel that you shouldn’t let them down.
Deleteadmiration is good, yes, and yes I would like to leave a good influence. However using Newtons laws, which I find apply to more than physics, for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. For all the admiration you get, there is an equal amount of negative emotion. I am trying to say that neither is truly better. They are both actually part of a cycle. One starts at either of the aforementioned (admiration/pity). Then there is a major event that delivers you unto the one inverse of the one you were at. Neither is better, but rather they are both parts of one of the many cycles of life.
DeleteId rather be admired the pitied. when admired people will look to and not think of you like ohh that kid and don't even look or pay attention too.Now why would anyone want to be pitied I bet everyone that chose to answer this question would choose to be admired if not then you must be a loner.
ReplyDeleteTo much of a good thing can end up being bad.
DeleteI would rather be admired than pitied. When you are admired people look up to you and respect you. If you are pitied its almost like people feel bad for you. I would not want people feeling bad for me and treating me differently. An example of this is when you work really hard to achieve something, and in the end you don't achieve your goal. People may pity you and feel bad for you. However, when this happens I do not want people treating my differently. I would rather people look at me with respect and admiration, for doing something commendable like always doing my best.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you in the sense of, "you having to earn that attention instead of it being forced on you for trying at something and still failing". Not to say that people shouldn't feel bad for you because of your failure, but in terms of respect and admiration vs pity, respect wins any day in my opinion.
DeleteAdmiration can be a good thing, but it can be bad too. Some times people get admired for hings they shouldn't, and sometimes people get nothing for things that are worthy of admiration. Pity while known to depress people and make them feel bad about themselves, it is not all bad. There are many who use it as a reason to raise themselves to new levels in order to release themselves from the cold, deathly grips of Pity.
DeleteWhy does you look at Pity as strictly negative and admiration as a purely positive thing?
I look at pity as a negative thing because I don't like people feeling bad for me. When people raise themselves to new levels because of pity its usually because they do not want to be pitied. They take a negative thing and turn it into a positive. Granted some people do thrive off of being pitied. As for admiration, I feel that there is nothing bad about it. Yes some people are admired for things that they shouldn't but it doesn't necessarily mean it is a negative thing.
Deletewhy don't you like it when people feel bad for you? what does it do you?
DeleteI would rather be admired, than be pitied by other people. I want to set an example for myself so people look up to me. It is a goal of mine that people look up to me in some way, so it shows that I did something with my life. I don’t want to be pitied since I see it as people forgetting about my name and who I was as a person. So that’s the main reason why I would rather be admired than be pitied.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, i would rather people admire me for my acomplishments, then be pitted for events that happened in my life.
DeleteI agree with this I rather be remembered by someone who admired me for something good I did or for how I reacted towards something then to be remembered by someone who pitied me because of something bad that happened to me.
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ReplyDeleteI would preferably be admired any day over being pitied. If you figure, being pitied is really kind of sad in itself especially if you're craving the attention you get from it; since you really didn't do anything worthwhile in order to gain all that unnecessary attention from people who wouldn't otherwise even know you personally for doing anything. If you're being admired at least you have a bigger chance of being remembered after you're "gone". In my opinion, being pitied is the lowest form of attention gain one can possibly have. At least when you're being admired, you've usually done something worth gaining all that attention. But if I had to choose an honest answer, i would probably have to think about it a lot more since i'm not big on having everyone's attention on me.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I’d day that being admired is far better than being pitied. If a person is admired it shows that they’ve done something that’s worth admiring, however if a person is being pitied, it shows that they are inferior or less in value than another person.
ReplyDeleteAn example of this would be when a person attempts to do something very difficult and doesn’t achieve their goal. In this situation, I’d rather be admired because I attempted to do something, than pitied because I failed.
Deleteuhh. That is still not an actual example. Details please.
DeleteI'd rather be admired than pitied. I would rather be admired because people would look up to me and I want to set a good example in some way. I wouldn't want to be pitied because I don't want people to feel sorrow for me in any way. So I would rather be admired than pitied.
ReplyDeleteIt seems like the majority of people say that they would rather be admired than pitied, but is there a situation that you would rather be pitied than admired?
ReplyDeleteI don't like the thought of being pitted at all, its bad enough having something terrible happen to you so that you have to be pitted. I'd rather be admired for something I did, and have a positive outlook towards things. Even if something bad does happen, I'd rather people come at me with a positive attitude so that it doesn't make things worse. I can understand feeling sorry for someone but pitying them won't help.
ReplyDeleteIn your comment, the way you talk about pitying is as if it's horrible; according to Abba Eban, an Israeli Diplomat, "its better to be disliked than pitied", would you agree with this? Or say that its an extreme?
DeleteI would have to say it's an extreme, I understand the concept of pitying someone. I just think it sends a negative message, it gives the person a reason to give up, or feel sorry for them self. To rather be disliked over being pitied just shows you have to much pride. Its not a bad thing to have someone feel bad for you, i just personally rather have someone help me then pity me.
DeleteI understand what you mean with you'd rather have someone help you than pity you, however I believe that although it seems like being pitied is negative, it's a function that humans will always have and although some people would say that they would rathe be admired than pitied, inside they truly don't mind being pitied and enjoy it at times. Would you agree with that?
DeleteI agree with this and understand where this person is coming from like if someone just had something bad happened to them this person doesn't need someone to pity them, they more like need someone that is there for them and make them think positive about things. In my opinion its better to have someone look up to you then to have have someone look down to you and feel bad.
DeleteI agree because its a different story if someone feels bad for you, but pitying somebody is just pathetic. and it feels good to a person when they are admired by somebody else. it builds self confidence .
DeleteI also agree with both of you, as me being the person I am I hate being pitied because most people only come around when pitying people I find it pathetic but I love being admired because people look up to you, it gives you a great feeling.
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ReplyDelete"How much better a thing it is to be envied than to be pitied?" Would anyone say that they'd rather be envied than pitied?
Being envied by others doesn't seem like something that would be any better than being pitied. Envy causes anger. I wouldn't want others to be jealous of me and not like me because of that.
DeleteI would rather be pitied than envied. When people envy you, it means that they might want what you have. Since we live in a world filthy with larceny and murder, I would not really want to be such a "hot" object. I would rather be pitied, because that generally means that a person has nothing a materialistic society would see as valuable. Therefore, I do not agree with you Herodutus. It is better to be pitied than envied.
DeleteBeing envied means that people want what you have or like something about you a lot. Which is why I would rather be envied. I don't want people feeling bad and sorry for me and pitying me.
DeleteIn my opinion, being pitied is when people feel sorry and look down at me. I'd rather be envied where people look at me and see something they want or want to be, than be pitied where people will view me as an inferior. Also T.Berger, what if the thing that you were being envied for was not an object of value, but rather a trait that you have obtained and others have not?
Delete@falvarado - why do think being pitied is people seeing you as an inferior? Pity is also people being sympathetic and instead of seeing you as inferior, see you as less well off. Sure these are closely related, but hey are different. inferiority suggests that they think they are better, this may not be so. What if it is more a feeling of dissatisfaction with your position and what you're doing with it?
Deletei would deffinatly rather have people admire me than pity me. i dont really need people to feel sorry for me. im a very strong and independent person and i have a lot of confidence.
ReplyDeleteHaving confidence and being independent is to very strong qualities but there are going to need someone to pity you. That person that might pity you every now and then could be the one to help you back onto your feet when your down and just help you when you need the help.
DeleteI would rather have people admire me then pity me. When people admire you it means that you have earned it. People look up to you as someone they respect in their life, and I see nothing wrong with that. If you have people pity you that means that something bad has happened to you unintentionally. This could be something tragic in your life that you did not want to happen in the first place.
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DeleteExactly! This is true.
DeleteI would rather be admired. If someone were feeling sorry for me it would get annoying. Yes it also gets annoying when my younger friends see something I do and then copy exactly what I wear or do but I wouldn’t be able to handle it if someone was feeling sorry for me all the time. If someone in my family died and I was upset and not my self then it would be different if someone had sympathy for me. But if everyday someone pitied me I’d go crazy. If someone was admiring me I’d feel better about my self and be happy someone was looking at me and liking what I was doing with my life, or the type of clothing I wear, and the kind of person I am. I think about my next-door neighbor Brittney that was my rolemodel and who I admired when I was growing up and how now I’m the way I am because of her. I’d love to be that for someone and have that impact on someone’s life. I’d love for someone to look up at me and admire me.
ReplyDeleteI believe I fall right in the middle of this question. I would rather be pitied when I'm kicked down to the dirt, but I would like, just as much, to be admired for the accomplishes I made. But if I had to choose one, it would be I would rather be admired. I would rather be admired because when you are admired that means to me, that you did something to earn the respect of the admirer.
ReplyDeleteWOw. Beautifully stated!
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DeleteAn example of when i would rather be admired than pitied is when i play fotball. When i play football naturally i get hit really hard.In relation, when i get back up after those hits people admire me bacause of my heart rather than pity me for weakness
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DeleteAdmiration for your "heart not pity for (your) weakness" Nicely stated!
DeleteIf I had to pick between being pitied or admired I would have to choose admired. I would go with admired not because I want to be, but because I really would not want to be pitied. Why fail at something and be looked at as lesser by someone else, at least that’s how I see pity? Especially if the other option is to just do something right by work a little harder. If I get admired for it, that would be nice, but more importantly I would have success and be able to admire myself.
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DeleteI rather be admired than pitied any day. Being the type of person I am I like to accomplish thing, and to know that I would be admired for the things I accomplished would make me feel so much better knowing people look up at me. To be pitied to me would make me feel ashamed. I wouldn't want to be looked down upon. That's why I would want to be admired over pitied.
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ReplyDeleteWould you rather be pitied or admired? (Think about it) Describe a situation that would best illustrate your answer.
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I would rather be admired than pitied. I think that, for example, I would rather be admired for noticing and halting a problem, than pitied for being destroyed because I didn’t. Admiration is something earned for unusually good work, while pity is something received for unusually bad fortune. Admiration is something that people would be happy receiving, for they earned it by skill, while pity is a small compensation for a large loss. As a example in my life, I once had a very painful headache which kept me out of school, and many pitied me for it. I was not improved by the presence of the pity, however there was something that improved me, and that was the admiration that I earned by my resilience to the pain. In my own opinion, an ounce of admiration is worth a ton of pity.
I believe pit is the first sign of a need for someone to be strong, begin to rehabilitate. Otherwise, it can be addictive. I admire so much about you, Paul.
DeleteBeing pitied or admired is like being in the same situation. I rather not be pitied and i rather not be admired, but if I had to pick I would have to pick admired. If you are admired you get good attention but if you are pitied people feel bad for you. Having people admire you is so much better then feeling bad for you.
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DeleteI rather have people admire me for what I do best in life than being pitied for what I've done wrong. People do make mistakes in life and some how we have to manage to just let it go, and keep it pushing. "A mixture of admiration and pity is one of the surest recipes for affection." (Helps). Both of them can come in handy once in a while when someone actually does something for attention. I can honestly say, yes, I've done that maybe several times in my life but not intentionally. I was a child and children need more attention than a lot of other people who do it just to do it. But if I feel like I've done something right, and I'm pitied on it, then there's nothing I can do. I don't have pity on myself or anyone. I have pity on the one's whom have pity for others.
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